Start by identifying the assumption(s) you made. For example, I assumed they would / would not do that. I assumed they would keep their promise. I assumed that by now they would know this about me. I assumed that they sense how I feel. I assumed they were aware of this already.

Now assume that your assumptions are wrong. Assume that what you thought was true is not actually true.

Take it one step further. Find the purpose behind why you made your assumptions.

Find out if your Box made assumptions in order to build resentments with the other person so as to block the possibility of intimacy with them. Consider that your Box strategically concocts such conflicts in order to retain its unquestioned authority in your life.

Through taking radical responsibility for having created your assumptions and expectations you find perhaps the only effective way to vanish your resentment: to admit your woundedness through Caring Communication.

Caring Communication is the procedure whereby you step sideways, away from your resentment and you admit your woundedness. You get off your position of being right. You dive down towards hitting bottom through vulnerably revealing your innermost feelings of fear, sadness, and anger, whatever is driving you to try to avoid intimacy.

Caring Communication means you tell these stories even if you look unprofessional, immature, stupid, silly, weak or childish; even if it proves you are a failure or an idiot.

While you tell your stories, the other person listens to you and says nothing except to deliver a few Completion Loops to show that they have heard and compassionately understand how it is for you. The listener asks no questions and gives no justifications, analysis, rescuing or suggestions. There is listening, acceptance, and respect.

If you actually loved Gaia, if you wanted complex evolving ecosystems to thrive on Earth, how would your behavior be radically different?

Be specific about this.